Tuesday, June 15, 2010

Waiting for the good guy...

I'm waiting for the Exfactor to show up. Since he never lets me know when he will get here, I can wait for hours and I have to keep myself busy in the meantime. I've done some chores and saw my SPN earlier this morning and now I'm sitting here with a cup of coffee trying to ignore Tyke who is breathing down my neck, literally. He is standing on the arm chair behind me and has his paw on my shoulder and his nose on my head. He is grumbling at me because I won't budge.

In the meantime, I've walked Tyke and the Exfactor has showed up. He has now gone to the grocery store with my list and my band card and Tyke is eating. He takes a bite and chews it while he walks around the living room. It's called recreational eating. The Exfactor has got me an elastic brace that fits completely around the palm of my hand, including in the lower part of my thumb. It has been bothering me for a few days and I think it is due to handling the mouse of the computer. The brace feels really good around it and I will wear it for awhile and see if it gives me any relief. I can always go to the doctor if it gets worse. The brace also prevents me from making the wrong moves with my thumb, which is helpful.
When I saw my SPN this morning, I could only conclude that I was in a completely sane state of mind. I was neither depressed not hypo-manic. I was as I wish always to be, completely "normal." Whatever definition of the word you want to apply to it, but you will know what I mean. This pleased us both very much and it put me in a good mood. I felt very much relieved that I had reached that point after the downturn last week. My SPN said it was because I had recognized what was happening to me on time and asked for help on time, and I said that I'm better able to do it each time because I'm not embarrassed to. I don't think anyone is going to think I cry wolf. So, I did alright then.
I needed very little groceries and discovered that buying the dog food I always get is no more expensive at the store than buying it on line. As a matter of fact, buying it on line is more expensive because I have to pay delivery charges, and all this time I thought I was getting a good deal because I was buying it in bulk. No, I'm not, so burst that bubble immediately. From now on I'm buying this dog food at the store. The Exfactor had also brought a cigarette lighter with him without me asking for it, though I had meant to, because the one I had was almost empty of fuel. He must have gotten my telepathic message. That's a neat trick, I'm going to try that again.
The domestic help did a good job cleaning yesterday. The spare bedroom is a damp room and as a result, the woodwork of the back door and of the window always gets very dirty with mildew and streaks from the water that drips down. She cleaned all the woodwork first and it looks like it has been freshly painted. Than she washed the window and the window in the back door inside and out and they are so clean that it looks like there is no glass in it. It's wonderful. The curtain that was in front of the window in the back door went straight into the trash bag. It had a bad case of mildew and dust. It was beyond salvage.
Now all that has to happen is for the Exfactor to move all his boxes and shelf systems out and that room can be wallpapered and painted and have furniture put in it beside the closet and the chair that are in there already. It's a big room, so there is space for an extra bed and a work table. I promised myself that I would get artistic again as soon as I would have the space for it, so it needs to happen sooner rather than later. I think 2 years is a long time to wait for a room to get emptied out.
Anyway, after much talk about his work and motorcycles, the Exfactor is gone again until Friday. He is a sweetheart, though, and I have to stay loyal to him. What other ex-husband would do the groceries once a week and come visit twice a week? Not many, I bet. I suppose I do serve a function in all of this too. I haven't quite figured out what it is, but I won't break my head over it. The arrangement is quite satisfactory to me, so I won't complain. I see enough of him to get my fill and appreciate him for who he is. Which is basically a decent human being. Let's not forget that. You don't meet many of those nowadays.
I asked him to buy me a bag of apples and I'm going to try and eat one of those. I don't know if I can eat a whole apple, but I'm going to chew very carefully and eat as much of it as I can. I think I need the roughage and the vitamins. It will be a good addition to my diet. I haven't eaten an apple in a very long time and I'm looking forward to it. I didn't put them in the refrigerator because I like my fruit at room temperature. I think then you can taste the flavor better than when it's cold. So wish me a lot of luck with eating my apple. I'm going to eat it with the skin on and all.
I hope you're all having a good day and nice weather. It's turned sunny and pleasant here after a very cool start. It was freezing at 6 am.


Twain12 said...

what a positive post :), i'm glad you are feeling good ♥
Not a bad day here either(so far), it is sunny but the wind is cool although i like it this way.
Have a great day !

aims said...

Gosh my friend. Don't you sound wonderful! I've only read some of the above post and came back here to read what is going on with your thumb. I'm wondering if you have carpal tunnel? Do you have an ergonomic keyboard and mouse? I know they are expensive but they do save your hands.

Now if you do - I'm wondering if there is some way for your health system to pay for it for you. Hmmmmm. I know my thumb just aches when I use my hands too much. Been sewing and using alot of pins lately and the ache starts in the thumb and goes up to my shoulder. I can hardly wait for the surgery. And no - I don't know when it is but I see the surgeon July 9th. I was begging for it to be done the other day because there's no getting away from that ache.

Ask a doctor or any of your professionals if that is something you might have. You do type tons!

Have missed you. You've caught me on a better health moment. It won't last but I'm typing tons here while it does.

Love from me - as usual.

Babaloo said...

I don't think fruit belongs in the fridge anyway. Unless it's a fruit salad which tends to go off quite soon because everything is peeled and chopped up. Apples are good! :)

Glad to hear you're doing well! x

Gail said...

Apples, a good dog and help around the house...that would bring anyone into a good mood.


Bernie said...

You sound wonderful Nora and this makes me happy knowing you are doing so well.
Our weather is really nice, I have been working outside on my deck and with my flowers. Will have pictures soon......:-) Hugs

Friend of the Bear said...

Hi Nora. How wonderful to be "normal" and completely sane. Brilliant!

Glad things are going so well at the moment. I hope the Exfactor does get his stuff cleaned out soon so that you can get creative again and do some painting etc. My pottery classes have really got me going - and now I've started lacemaking again!

In my role as an ex I help out the Bear a lot - I love him more as a friend than I ever did before. SUch close connections are very precious. You don't need to be having sex with someone to love them and feel close to them. In fact I find it's better not having sex!

Bearfriend xx